How limiting beliefs destroy your poker confidence

A true inspiration

Nick Vujicic is a true inspiration. I often have the fear of getting injured badly and in the worst case, becoming physically disabled. That doesn´t stop me from doing risky things I “shouldn´t” be doing. In a quiet moment the fear is still there.

A typical problem with the poker mindset

In my mind, I know that whatever you do, it all depends on your poker attitude. And every messed up situation can be turned around. You can´t change the past. And some things that I/you/we have done in the past can have a strong impact on our future – both ways. But I´m sure you´ve also heard, read and listened to some big “turn around” stories. Americans in general love those stories. Often though, it seems like you have to “be there” in order to truly understand it.

Although I know this “theory” in my head, I still haven´t eliminated my fear completely. My mindset right now is that it would simply suck to be disabled. I mean, fuck it, I couldn´t do so many things that I love to do (many that involve sports & travelling). So when watching this video, I immediately felt sorry for the guy. I felt bad for him. I felt he needs special love. Who else is feeling this way?


Why I think my last 3 sentences are laughable

Look. It’s ridiculous. Thinking a bit more about it, most likely Nick is feeling bad for most of US. Yeah, he’s got no legs, so what? Arms? Oh wait, you need arms to play golf. Oh wait! Feeling bad for him would assume that he has a terrible life. Doesn´t seem to be the case. That guy rocks. He´s turning the game around. I love that. His whole live screams “FU nature, eat that shit”. I don´t know how he´s doing with the ladies, but it wouldn´t shock me at all if they´re standing in line for him.

After watching this video, you have to ask yourself if you have ANY, and I mean ANY reason to not believe that you can “do it”. I don´t know what it is. But this guy should be living proof of your “limiting beliefs”.

Limiting Beliefs

What is a limiting belief? A limiting belief is a belief, set by yourself (consciously or subconsciously) or socially conditioned, that is an obstacle. A self protecting obstacle that is very risk averse.

When it comes to dating, a limiting belief would be like “oh, she is with her friends, can´t talk to her”. Another one would be “oh, I don´t know the language perfectly”. Simply wrong. Try it out, you can have some of the most thrilling experiences.

One of my most unforgettable dates ever

Let me share from my personal life. It’s pretty much exactly one year ago. Lived in St. Petersburg, Russia.  I´ve done a bit of Rosetta Stone, but my Russian was terrible. And not one of those understatements where people say “ah, I ´m not good at it”. I knew enough to survive and while living there, learnt  more. So one day, taking the Metro from Приморская (Primorskaya) to Гостиный двор ( Gostiny Dvor) station, then a beautiful Russian girl, tall, light brown hair, and deep strong shining eyes sat down. Looked in her eyes and I knew she has something. What can I say, she was very Russian (if you know me, I have a weakness for Russian girls).  I was busy reading a book. But our eyes caught each other. Slight smiles.

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You probably know the feeling. Should I? Should I not? But I don´t even know how to speak 3 sentences correctly. So we kept going, I read my book, but inside I knew what I had to do. It started to boil. And most of us have that “intuition”. I knew I would hate myself for the rest of the day if I didn’t talk to her. I remember going through situations like this in the past. And I´m sure you also have PLENTY of them. And every time I followed my guts I´ve never regretted it. No, it didn’t always work out. Actually, more often, it didn´t. But I´ve never regretted it. Still, there is this sort of resistance and one has to overcome it every single time. You can practise and get better at it, but the devil inside of you who wants to stop you is always going to be there. At the time, inside the metro, thoughts were shooting through my brain. I knew it could be over at any time. I was freaking nervous. Looking for her to stand up, so I´d notice when she would leave. Game on. Next station it was going to happen. She got up and I didn´t stand up. The metro slowed down and soon it was all over. The door opened, she was going out. I already had mind visions of how I´m so going to regret not talking to her. The sounds of the doors closing were already flowing to my ears. When something said. NO. Fuck. Damn, you freaking idiot. Nice excuse. Only because you don´t know Russian?! Really? Something powerful awakened. Not going to lose the battle without fighting. After all, I have NO French blood, so why behave like it? Stood up, went out, she was already turning around. With my best broken Russian I basically said Stop! Stay there! Took a second. Looked in her eyes. And told her … haha, that’s my secret! We talked, walked through the whole metro station (they are BIG and beautiful in Russia) although her English was equally terrible. But she had a cute little dictionary with her (gotta be prepared when a German comes along). We talked, laughed, then I had to leave. She wrote her number on a салфетка (something like a tissue, but not a tissue, dunno how to explain). Won´t go into further detail, but it was better than any movie could make it! Day after we had exciting and most fun dates (describing the evening in the city would take another 2 pages), watching the bridges over the Neva river going down.

I wanted to share this, because limiting beliefs can be so empowering. And they even get reinforced because most of the time it “doesn’t work out”. And that’s true, it’s trying and falling down, standing up, falling down, falling down, falling down, standing up. It’s the name of the game. Get used to it.  But without trying you´ll always keep falling. Keep in mind that “the fastest way to improve is to double your failings” (founder of IBM).

When it comes to business/poker a limiting belief would be “I will never be able to beat high stakes”. Or “having your own company is too risky”. Think about the difference between two people: One says “I know I can create abundant wealth and help others simultaneously no matter where I come from”. Whereas the other person says “only children from rich families can do this”.

Nothing can tear you down once you have a Poker Mindset

Nick Vujicic is a great example, a motivation and inspiration. Every time you think you “can´t do it”. Every time you think you´re too ugly, too stupid. Every time you play like a donkey. Every time you look at the 300lbs inside. Don´t let it stop you. If missing arms and legs can´t stop somebody, isn´t it pretty laughable when you look at most of your “problems”?

I´m in love with that guy

I don´t know what exactly it is. You know, usually I don´t like fluff videos about “finding new energy”, getting strength and all of it mixed with some nice sounding fluff. I can´t tell you how I can´t stand it.
But this is real. Not some good sounding words. It is HIM. His creativeness. How he plays drums. Gosh, he can turn all clubs upside down.

You know you can do it. Don´t make excuses for yourself.

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